Oh my goodness, say it isn’t so! Somehow I’ve managed to make it through the second trimester of my pregnancy and into my third and I still feel like I need 6 months to get everything prepared for baby… Tell me I’m not the only one who gets to the third trimester totally unexpectedly?
Anyways, Fox and I are still nursing, and with no end in sight – I have little doubt that we will make it through the entire pregnancy at this point and tandem nurse when baby is here!
Breastfeeding Through the Fourth Month of Pregnancy
The beginning of the fourth month of pregnancy is when I’m certain my milk dried up entirely. Miss Fox would fuss and grump at my chest while nothing flowed, and what sealed my certainty is how much more she would eat! She went from having an appetite like a petite little birdy to being hungry as a horse and never missing a meal, with plenty of snacks in between.
A lot of moms are curious about how to keep their milk supply up during their pregnancy – unfortunately, there isn’t a way to do it. The hormonal changes in your body affect your ability to make milk, and some mamas can continue to produce breastmilk all the way up until delivery, and others (like myself) dry up, usually sometime in the second trimester. It doesn’t seem to deter many nurslings, though!
Fox did start to nurse less frequently, and ask for milk less through the day, which has been bittersweet, but also very relieving as my nursing aversion can flare up on heavy demand days.
Breastfeeding Through the Fifth Month of Pregnancy
Sometime around the mid-point mark, I started to produce colostrum again. Just drops – but enough that my daughter noticed! She picked up the nursing again, but my aversion has also picked up.
I’ve started setting nursing boundaries with her. First, she is totally night-weaned. She nurses to sleep, the boobies go to sleep, and she doesn’t get milk until sunrise again. It was hard for only a night or two – with her having moved into her own room, our moving and stirring at night doesn’t wake her anymore, and on nights that she does wake, she is comforted by being snuggled (though she still asks for milk!).
Breastfeeding Through the Sixth Month of Pregnancy
I’ve gotten really good with boundaries. For the most part, Fox will nurse only at night, with a morning session on about 50% of mornings.
Occasionally, when she asks to nurse throughout the day, for comfort through a toddler injury or some big feelings, I will sometimes allow her, but with a time limit. I’ll set a timer on my phone for 60, 90, or 120 seconds and she knows that when it goes off, it’s time to stop. It helps with my aversion, and it helps her learn to respect my boundaries. She has taken it really, really well.
There have been a handful of nights in the last month where she hasn’t even nursed to sleep, she just cuddled. She’s definitely not ready to wean yet, but her maturity and ability to be soothed by something other than breastfeeding has significantly increased.
And that wraps up what breastfeeding has looked like for us through the second trimester! Just one left before we cross into the tandem nursing world; I’m excited and anxious at the same time!
If you want to read more about nursing through pregnancy, the hormones involved there, and figuring out how to make tandem nursing work, I highly highly recommend the book Adventures in Tandem Nursing. The best price for it is through La Leche League International, linked above.
Come back in a few months to check in on what breastfeeding was like through the third trimester, and hopefully some fancy new squish photos!
Missed the other parts of the series? Catch up here:
Breastfeeding Through the First Trimester | Breastfeeding Through the Second Trimester