Things are going to get real here today, folks.
The Making It Home Confessional
Let’s start with a little confession: I’m not as good of a mom as I should be.
Well, not as good of a mom as I feel I should be, I suppose, but it’s roughly the same, don’t you think? Surely I’m not the only one who feels this way, right?
Measuring Up to Other Moms
A blogger friend of mine posted a question on her Facebook a few days ago, and since then I’ve had this post rolling around in my head.
You see, she asked her readers, “What’s one food you definitely don’t want your child to eat?”
As I read into the comments, though, I started to feel like I don’t measure up to these other moms, that I’m not doing as good of a job as they are. “Fast food,” said one. “Red food dyes,” said another. “Processed sugar,” said a third.
What’s the one thing I don’t want my child to eat? Dog food.
Yeah. If I could keep my 2 year old out of the dog food bowl, that would be great.
Who are these super moms that don’t occasionally hit a drive-thru? Or who have the time to read every label and make every food item from scratch? How do I become one? Why don’t I have the hours in the day to do everything I feel like I should do when these incredible women manage all of it within the same 24 hours that I’m given?
Your Own Worst Enemy
I’m my own worst enemy. Instead of being inspired by the goals these gals made for their children, I took it as a jab.
I suppose that’s how the “mommy wars” started, isn’t it?
Someone said something, someone else took personal offense to it, and now we’re all segregated into cliques of crunchy and silky moms, breastfeeders and bottle feeders, cloth diaper addicts and disposable diaper users.
But, the truth is, we’re all somewhere on the spectrum. We can be kind of crunchy, but still feed our kids rainbow goldfish crackers (from the store!) with their organic strawberries for lunch. We can use disposable diapers but towels for spills in the kitchen.
We do the best we can with the resources we have to stick as close to the values we’ve chosen as possible while keeping our sanity in check and our families cared for. No more, no less, and that’s just perfect the way it is.
Learn Better, Do Better
Maybe I’m not the mom I should be, but I’m mom enough for my kid. And, as I learn better, I’ll do better.
As I learn how to budget my time more efficiently, I’ll bake more homemade bread – and maybe my house will even be cleaner.
As I learn how to budget our money more efficiently, I’ll feed my family a more organic diet.
As I learn some humility, I’ll take these comments and use them as a learning opportunity, to find out why and how people do things differently, and hopefully set my ambitions a little higher next time.
Thankfully, things aren’t all-or-nothing.
So, Fox, enjoy your Girl Scout cookies for breakfast, because snack time holds a spinach smoothie for you. Maybe tomorrow, we’ll do better for breakfast – or maybe we’ll have french fries for dinner.
Do you ever feel like you don’t measure up? Where do you feel that pressure is coming from? How can you learn and grow from it? Chime in here or come join the discussion on Facebook – and know that you’re a great mom just as you are!